Have you been in a conversation with someone who always says the opposite to what you are saying?

For example: If you say, “What a beautiful weather?” they may tell you, “Yes, but it’s unpredictable and can change anytime.”

We all see the world through a different lens of our beliefs and experiences. 

Some people like to focus on the future and talk about what could happen and how their choices and decisions could impact their lives. Others have a habit of always using their past experiences to guide future decisions. 

Understanding the subtle differences in our thinking can make a massive difference in creating rapport, connection and relationships. Acknowledging that everyone is trying to do the right thing and focusing on their success is crucial. 

Matching happens when we find others who have similar mindsets and thinking patterns as we do. 

Mismatching happens when we conflict with others because of differences in opinions. 

All we can do is focus on the big picture and grasp the overall purpose to have win-win conversations.

We must tune out conflicting thoughts and focus on building connections that stick. Giving power to our relationships is more critical than fuelling our egos. Life can change instantly, and we might end up ruing our decisions forever.

What if, only for today, you spent more time listening to others and understanding the differences? 

What if, only for today, you could forge relationships and connections by understanding that we can have our opinions, but the bigger purpose is the same? 

What if this is the only thing that matters? 

How do you start:

• Practice daily gratitude and be thankful for your relationships.
• Practice daily meditation and be in charge of your emotions.
• Practice thinking your thoughts and focus on what you want.
• Practice identifying the matchers and mismatchers in your conversations and create a win-win for everyone.