It’s human nature to be the hero. We all want to be recognised for providing the best ideas and solutions. 

Even if someone doesn’t ask for help, we always provide unsolicited advice. 

Imagine being on the other side of the situation. 

Remember when someone comes and starts giving you advice and solutions you don’t need. 

Resisting the need to provide solutions and becoming entangled in the rescue act is one of the significant problems in human behaviour. 

When we consider our mental model of the world as the only reality, our egos are inflated when we see, hear or feel a potential solution that could solve someone else’s problem. 

The challenge with this approach is that we break trust and rapport instead of building one. 

When we are in the rescue act, and if someone doesn’t listen to our suggestions, we immediately turn towards blame games and stop taking responsibility for our behaviours. We stop listening and empathising. Our emotional quotient reduces, and we become judgemental and biased. 

Becoming a Rescuer should be the last thing on your mind if you want to help someone. 

A quick tip is to ask for permission before starting to provide solutions. 

Permission often gives the other person an opportunity to share what’s on their mind and triggers an approval or disapproval. 

Another tip is to ask questions instead of statements. Doubting our perception that another person expects a solution can be a gamechanger in sticky situations. 

We develop stronger bonds and deepen trust in relationships by resisting our rescue needs.